Why do we (women) do this? Someone compliments us for something we’ve done. Not something that we’ve bought (a new purse) or that someone else has done to us (a new haircut). But something from our own two hands. Like a stamped card. “This is so beautiful!”
And here’s what I hear in response:
- I should have put the bow higher.
- It’s not centered.
- I’ve done better.
- I colored the leaves with the wrong color.
- Et cetera …
I do it, too. I think that kind of response says, “I’m not worthy of your compliment.” Is that true? If I protest your compliment, doesn’t that cause you to offer another comment, slightly more effusive or heartfelt, and maybe another? Is it fair to make you jump through hoops like that?
Let’s try to allow someone else the pleasure of a kind word. When I receive a compliment on my work, I’ll try to say “Thank you, I’m glad you like it.”